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tophat  cluck
Since: Nov-2015
pushpin 420 - Qr 12 Reviews


(Found a similar thread, but it's over a year old.)


So I've been taking meds for awhile now and I feel like it's affecting my sex drive. Of course, the LUST is always there, but sometimes the physical evidence is lacking. This makes me feel like crap. I'm still young, I should have a couple years in me yet. I'm starting to wonder whether this is physiological or psychological. Sometimes I panic and lose my nerve during a session and then the anxiety snowballs and that's that. The only thing I can think that might help is getting comfortable enough with a provider so that she knows me inside and out (so to speak) and exhibits kindness and patience so I won't feel these anxious feelings anymore.


I should clarify: I still get hard easily and frequently (especially given the right stimuli), but the firmness and duration isn't quite up to snuff.







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tophat  Jdmkenpo
Since: Jan-2017
pushpin 188 - 1 Review


I think everyone has a time in their life where anxiety kicks in and kicks you rt on the dick lol. Change up your meds. Try other meds that have less impact on your body like pristiq etc. Maybe ask your dr to cycle you on and off or research supps you can take. Hope this helps







tophat  honu1111
Since: Jun-2015 Vip 
pushpin 225 - 1 Review


Something you should discuss with your doctor(s).


There are a LOT of types of anti-depressants - SSRI's are probably most common now, there are also MAOI's , Tricyclics, and, as far as I know, Wellbutrin is the only NDRI . 


Messing with Serotonin and Dopamine in particular can have effects on sex-drive as well as the physical aspect....







Chaplinicon
tophat  cluck
Since: Nov-2015
pushpin 420 - Qr 12 Reviews


I'm currently taking Wellbutrin. I've found it hasn't had any effect on my mood whatsoever. This problem is one I've noticed gradually over the course of a few months (maybe longer). Since Wellbutrin isn't indicated for anxiety, I'm afraid I'd have to introduce new medications into my system which may come with its own slew of side effects and dysfunctions.


What I do now is I don't empty the chamber for days leading up to an encounter. Of course, then I end up shooting within minutes. It's lose-lose for me.







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tophat  Jdmkenpo
Since: Jan-2017
pushpin 188 - 1 Review


I would talk to your dr and switch it up. Just tell him you dint want anything too strong that will mess with your luv life. Also try supps that aid in sexual stamina like rise, they sell that at vitamin shoo etx. Just see what happens.







tophat  tomdod33
Since: Aug-2014
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I don't play a doctor on TV therefore I know what I'm talking about.


You aren't presenting well.

See a doctor and have the answers for:


Your age is ?

Which came first- Wellbutrin or these feelings?
Why start Wellbutrin since it's used for other than emotional issues.

What other meds do you take?
Why and for how long?
What other medical problems affect you?


Begin there.  If these are too sensitive to discuss- then whine away.








tophat  peckerotis
Since: Jul-2016
pushpin 527 - 2 Reviews


My libido and ability to maintain an erection were fine until my Dr put me on statins and diuretics among other drugs. After 3 months, they killed my dick. Now at 67, I'm even having a long time getting it up and finishing. Thank God my ATF understands. Her cure is to get me up fast and get it over faster. Kind of a drag, but it works. I really miss the day of prolonged foreplay and slowly reaching a powerful orgasm. Well, I guess that a diminished response is better than none. Maybe I should go back to the quickies. I feel badly when my ATF spends 45 minutes trying to get me off. She's getting pretty worn out, and I can't blame her.







tophat  explorer72
Since: Jun-2016
pushpin 37 - 1 Review


I had a similar experience with Zoloft, an ssri.  First it killed all desire.  Later it was very difficult to orgasm(almost impossible).  Funny how this is supposed to be for anxiety and it causes more.    I now use a cbd compound for the anxiety and it does not have all the side effects.







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tophat  Jdmkenpo
Since: Jan-2017
pushpin 188 - 1 Review


I dont remember stating i was a dr🤔 im pretty sure i said to visit his dr and just made examples of meds etc. I didnt say take this lol. 







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rose  Sasha Saint
Since: Oct-2016
pushpin 13 - 22 Reviews


Well I am very understanding and patient and nonjudgmental so if you ever want to see for yourself I would love to share myself with you







Chaplinicon
tophat  cluck
Since: Nov-2015
pushpin 420 - Qr 12 Reviews


Check your reviews, honey! And verify me while you're at it. 


I really do feel bad for being negative in that review. The more I think about it, the more fun I had with you. I think we were both just having off-days. Hopefully no hard feelings. (groan...pun intended)







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rose  Cherrie Pi
Since: Aug-2014
pushpin 252 - 57 Reviews


I have very strong feelings about antidepressants, both pro and con.  I'll explain; please realize that this is a story i don't often tell for reasons you will realize after reading. 


First, the "con".   I was about 25 and wanted to quit smoking.  My family doctor prescribed me the patch and a scrip of Wellbutrin, which has an off-label use as a quit-smoking aid.    End result- within about 5 days, I was feeling suicidal.   Seriously.  I contemplated stepping in front of an oncoming train. . I couldn't cross a bridge without thinking about jumping.   Now, I was still of sound enough mind to know that this was not natural.  I'm not suicidal, never have been, no matter how depressing or bleak things have gotten.   I contacted a woman who'd been my therapist the previous year, she told me about the (then) little-known possible side effect of that class of antidepressants, and  called my doc and he took me off them instantly.  Needless to say, I didn't quit smoking.  I've been completely averse to the idea of antidepressants (for myself) ever since. 


Now, the "pro".  I'll warn you though that this is a far more tragic story than my having not quit smoking.   


 I was married for, at the time, 15 years.  We were, for the most part, good.  As all couples, had some great years, had some shitty ones.  We were in the middle of a shitty one for a host of reasons I won't go into here.


I had temporarily moved out ( we were staying with his mother while house-hunting due to my job transferring me to the bay area).   I could not handle one minute more staying with his mom- she was - is- a terrible hoarder and believes some crazy shit and insists on sharing it, is very judgemental, etc- it was a bad situation for both of us and I begged him to leave with me but he wouldn't.


Backstory, just a little - he suffered from chemical depression.  He'd had it for years, had been crashingly depressed more than an a couple times through our years together.  At that time, he'd gotten so deep into deprssion that he refused to leave his room.  Now, before we 'd moved to CA from OR, he'd been on an antidepressant (I don't recall which one) which seemed to work mood-wise but sexually sucked.  He couldn't reach fruition at all, ever.  He'd get hard, he'd love the feeling, but couldn't ever cum.  not from masturbating, from oral, intercourse, nothing.  We had a very dynamic and excellent sex life, and this side effect was more than he could deal with, so he quit taking the antidepressant. 


I'm not going to get into the little details because they don't matter.   On July 9, 2013, he hung himself from the tree in our backyard.   I still believe that if he'd stayed on the meds that may not have happened.  Of course I don't know that for certain.   But he was better with them than without. 


they are a powerful class of drug.    Approach with care, is all i can say.  but if needed, and if they work, please do take them. 


-C_Pi








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tophat  cluck
Since: Nov-2015
pushpin 420 - Qr 12 Reviews


That's a horribly tragic story, CP. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.


Yeah, it's a double-edged sword with these chemical-dependency meds. Some people need to rely on them more heavily than others and everyone seems to react differently to different things. In my case, it's been a lifetime of trial and error (mostly error) starting when I was 17. I've taken every brand name on the market and in every single case, the side effects have outweighed the benefits. For at least a period of 10 years, I kicked all the meds and just endured the natural depression and anxiety, which was no picnic either. I have really, really bad social anxiety disorder, to the point of agoraphobia. When you mentioned that his depression was so deep that he couldn't leave his room, I've been there. I always refer to that as the "Brian Wilson" period of depression. To be honest, leaving my sanctuary and going out into the world to meet women (escorts) has been good therapy for getting me out of my skin. It's given me lots of experiences I wouldn't have otherwise and lots of highest highs (as well as lowest lows). It's the only thing I've got going on in my life, anyway.


I have a personal theory that I wouldn't need antidepressants if I had a girlfriend. That's the natural high I'm lacking in my life. I wouldn't have to worry about all the unintended side effects, either.


The world is a fucked up place. I feel so bad for your husband.







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tophat  Solidus Snake
Since: Mar-2017
pushpin 5 - 5 Reviews


Thanks for sharing.


I am also on antidepressants. Taking Zoloft. I can't reach climax unless I am really emotionally involved so I make up fantasies with my provider. It helps if they look like someone I was really into. Right now I am trying to taper off and on the days I skip a dosage my libido sky rockets. I hope some of this helps. 


P.S. thanks Camora and lovely Alicia for you patience. 

Most of all thank you Lucy!! For giving me a true GFE experience. 







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tophat  Dr.PallMall
Since: Feb-2015
pushpin 3588 - 11 Reviews


I also take Zoloft. I don't want to be melodramatic and claim I wouldn't be around without it, but it's not unrealistic. I plan on taking it until the end. For the first year I had trouble coming. So I had to find partners who didn't mind an hour of pounding. But over time, all the sexual side effects disapated and completely returned to normal.







Chaplinicon
tophat  cluck
Since: Nov-2015
pushpin 420 - Qr 12 Reviews


I would love to have the delayed ejaculation benefit. For me, it's either cum too quick or lose it completely.







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tophat  Dr.PallMall
Since: Feb-2015
pushpin 3588 - 11 Reviews


That's really frustrating, I agree.