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tophat Tato
Since: Aug '17
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Hello community, I have taken the time to get myself acquainted with this site. I finally decided I want to give this hobby a shot. However, my concern is NOT getting busted. I've gathered the following:

1.) I'm not paying for anything, im merely leaving a donation 

2.) Leave said donation on nightstand or somewhere visible (never physically hand it over)

3.) Never discuss anything explicit over the phone 


Is there anything else I'm missing? 


-Thanks 







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tophat Asubtlesenior
Since: Sep '14 Vip  
pushpin 1828 - Qr 59 Reviews


You make it sound like a lot of work.







tophat Tato
Since: Aug '17
pushpin 4


Help a friend out. Am I overthinking it? Or am I on the right track. This is all completely new to me.







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rose JustJamiBBW
Since: Jul '17 Vip   Verifiedbadge
pushpin 134 - 13 Reviews


On the right track! Dont forget to do your homework before diving in. You want your first experience as stress free as possible. 







tophat Tato
Since: Aug '17
pushpin 4


Would you recommend anything else I should or shouldnt do?







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tophat peckerotis
Since: Jul '16
pushpin 1166 - 4 Reviews


You might try to be more self confident.  That's what the ladies like the most.







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tophat pvsanjose
Since: Jul '14
pushpin 311 - 27 Reviews


See someone who has a track record 

Avoid cheap hotels, or sketchy places to meet up

Develop a sense of self awareness - your little voice will kick in if something is amiss 

You might try sticking with someone you know for a while 







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tophat ValleyScott
Since: Jul '17
pushpin 694 - Qr 5 Reviews


Welcome to our crazy little world!

Best advice: Get out while you still can!  This can become addicting and take over your life if you lose control.


But since you've come this far, you're probably wanting to see it through. Real Advice:


--Stay away from BackPage.  Not everyone there is a trouble, but there are quite a few bad ones.  And until you gain experience you wont be able to find the good ones (And even experienced hobbyists have trouble there.  18 years I've been doing this and no good luck on BP!).


--Reviews matter.  Read them.  Post them when you session.

Research is your friend.  It helps you to find a lady that will see a newbie, and it helps you find the ladies who you will have a good session with.  Read her entire ad.  Twice.  Read her reviews.  


--Be confident and polite in your communications.


--When you meet, be a gentleman. Treat her with respect.  Follow her rules.  


--Leave reviews, but if she asks you not to give too many details or to leave certain things out, do what she says.  Ask her to verify your review.


--Participate in your local forums.  Introduce yourself there.  Get to know people online.


hope this helps.


-Valleyscott

"Always a gentleman"







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tophat jimmyvegas
Since: Nov '14
pushpin 100 - 3 Reviews


No Shit Senior, just reading his post got me all worked up, looking over my shoulder..  


Hell boy, You've got to relax.  Once you're in the clear with your new friend, she'll give you plenty to get all worked up about.


The best thing you can do is hedge your bet by researching things you would normally would never care about.  Like what you ask.. Like how many reviews an individual has but also who provided those reviews and who have they also seen.  You may also want to choose someone who is very open to meeting persons that are just starting to be social                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            







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rose oneprettypenny209
Since: Jul '14 Vip   Verifiedbadge
pushpin 32 - 74 Reviews


Yes research is very important if you value your safety, your freedom , and getting what you paid for. I am a provider that screens on intuition , and not reviews or references . I'm newbie friendly . And once you see a girl like me and time spent together is amazing, then you can write a review describing your encounter and the provider, should verify your review. There are some gals that will not verify a review for fear of incriminating themselves. Verifying the review acknowledges that a session took place . Which will not look good later on in kangaroo court. A way to meet these providers half way so to speak is refrain from writing a heavily detailed account of your session . Just say whether you were pleased with your visit. Whether or not she was the girl in the pictures or not. Etc. This makes it a little more difficult for gentlemen doing research to make a decision based off of the review. However they can always private message the reviewer to ask whether or not she will let you skull fuck her or if she enjoys Anal . This way any type of potentially damning evidence is not going to be obtained by reading the reviews.  Jump in and get your dick wet ! Be safe 💋







tophat Tato
Since: Aug '17
pushpin 4


I really appreciate the information everyone! I feel much better about venturing into this hobby. On a side note, if an escort has high reviews (e.g. more than 25), but no TER ID, should I overlook it and feel assured with her high # of reviews?







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tophat ronbo424
Since: May '15 Vip  
pushpin 624 - Qr 37 Reviews


Find a profile you like with 10 or so reviews, pm her with a nice introduction and follow her lead... maybe a newbie friendly gal. 

She's the one that might be a little spooked, you're the new guy... so expect questions. 


Only take donation into session with you. 

Watch your surroundings at all times. 

Make sure your car is tagged and everything works right... cops patrol hotel's, you'll get pulled over for a blinker that don't work.

Then you can explain why you're there!

 It's all about cya.

This can be cat and mouse so keep on your toes, stay vigilant .

If it looks tgtbt it probably is. 

Watch out for those impulsive decisions, those are what can get ya in trouble or have a crappy session....research and research. 

b good and have fun. 









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tophat Sick Puppy
Since: May '17
pushpin 906


I got busted a while ago. I was totally careful and didn't say anything about money or why I was even there. I was told that since I was there and I had money on me that was a sign of intent. I had to do a shit ton of community service to stay out of jail and now I have a permanent mark on my record. If it's a sting and you show up you're going to get busted regardless. It doesn't matter what you do or don't say. If you're willing to take the risk use well-reviewed providers and remember that if it's too good to be true it probably is. Don't let your hormones do the thinking for you. Use common sense, be careful, and be safe!







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tophat Gentlemansavage
Since: Jan '17 Vip  
pushpin 730 - Qr 22 Reviews


Yes research is very important if you value your safety, your freedom , and getting what you paid for. I am a provider that screens on intuition , and not reviews or references . I'm newbie friendly . And once you see a girl like me and time spent together is amazing, then you can write a review describing your encounter and the provider, should verify your review. There are some gals that will not verify a review for fear of incriminating themselves. Verifying the review acknowledges that a session took place . Which will not look good later on in kangaroo court. A way to meet these providers half way so to speak is refrain from writing a heavily detailed account of your session . Just say whether you were pleased with your visit. Whether or not she was the girl in the pictures or not. Etc. This makes it a little more difficult for gentlemen doing research to make a decision based off of the review. However they can always private message the reviewer to ask whether or not she will let you skull fuck her or if she enjoys Anal . This way any type of potentially damning evidence is not going to be obtained by reading the reviews.  Jump in and get your dick wet ! Be safe 💋


Well said, Penelope.


You were exactly who I had in mind when I was thinking about the OP.







tophat Snapdaddy
Since: Mar '15
pushpin 25 - Qr 6 Reviews


Your last two paragraphs you wrote about the PM's LMFAO penny

You crack me up

I have you on my favs list I will have to meet you sometime soon!!







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tophat MrRoboto
Since: May '17
pushpin 1111 - 11 Reviews


The first rule of Hobbying is never to talk about Money!

I mean never discuss money over communication.  You only discuss how much time you want to spend.

You never discuss explicit activities.







tophat j_brahms
Since: Dec '14
pushpin 8 - 3 Reviews


Welcome Tato.  Please remember that many but not all people (both providers and hobbyists) here want you to have fun, pleasure, and just enjoy yourself.  There's no pressure on you to do anything unless you commit to meet a woman in which case you ought to show up on time and just be courteous. A woman who likes newbies should help you out just fine.


Also along the lines of safety don't forget about your health.  There's no such thing as a risk free life.  The risks in this little world are different healthwise.  Small risks when added up repeatedly become bigger risks.  I am not exactly wet behind the ears but I've NEVER had problems.  You'll have to draw your own lines as to what you will do with whom and inform yourself.


Again welcome and remember a lot us are like you in the sense we want to have some fun.  Enjoy what life has to offer!









tophat Bobbenson
Since: Mar '16
pushpin 3


Im sorry. But I smell bacon. Someone asking how to not get busted. Makes me think LE is probing for info. Only my second post I understand. Bacon is a distinct smell in any situation 







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rose sarahsoleii
Since: Oct '15
pushpin 56 - 2 Reviews


My sentiments exactly. 👀 everything should just flow naturally, like a blind date.







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rose Jamie Lee
Since: Jul '17 Vip   Verifiedbadge
pushpin 18 - 20 Reviews


I am newbie friendly as well. I'm kind, warm and welcoming....especially if I know it's your first time.








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tophat NiceChillaxGuy
Since: Aug '17
pushpin 4


If this community was the Forest Planet in the movie Avatar, PP would be the humongous soul tree. She really adds so much value to this forums and our community. I hope NS gives her some shares in their company.


Thank you PP.







tophat stevenvisalia
Since: Aug '14
pushpin 1827 - 9 Reviews


Yes you are over thinking it.  Just don't panic and think if you come clean they will let you off the hook....they will try to scare you just don't fall for it.  Stay cool and calm and do not admit that any unlawful acts were committed.  They have to prove their case you don't need to be helping them out telling them how it will ruin your life and family....they really could care less....Chances are if you have no priors or record and not carrying anything illegal they will let you go with a warning....


Unless you are right out in the open drawing attention or not being careful, the odds of you getting busted or caught in a sting are like one in 100,000.


SV